To post or not to post, that is the question

I debated on whether or not to click post as I re-read the words on the screen a few times over. My response wasn’t harsh or hate-filled. I hadn’t used any derogatory words nor did I believe it was a comment that would cause controversy. However, it wasn’t long after I shared my thoughts that I received a message and learned my comment had been misinterpreted.

This isn’t the first time I’ve hit post, share, or send only later to regret leaving my words permanently posted on the screen of another. Over the years, I’ve learned to tame my tongue when speaking to others in person because words are like toothpaste – once they come out, it’s impossible to put them back, however, I can find myself challenged to tame my fingers when they’re the ones doing the talking.

Great amounts of courage can be summoned up when sitting behind a screen rather than looking directly into the eyes of our audience. An unusual boldness washes over us as we feel inclined to share our blunt and unfiltered thoughts and opinions all the while forgetting that words on a screen not only have the power to leave a lasting impression, they can easily give way to misunderstanding.

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.  And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.  Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:29-32)

Paul wrote these instructions to the church in Ephesus so they would know how to live as followers of Christ and reflect His light in their daily living. I am especially challenged by his instruction to only say what is helpful for building up others according to their needs.

Perhaps it would be wise to test our words against Paul’s instructions before we click post. Are the words I’m sharing going to build up and benefit others? Do my words show hints of bitterness, rage, anger, or slander? Are these words kind and compassionate, reflecting the light of Christ or might they grieve the Holy Spirit of God?

 “Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” (Proverbs 12:18) May all of our words reflect the heart of God so that they always benefit those who read them.